Thank you so much for your detailed and kind answer! You're a very thoughtful person. I suppose I shouldn't feel bad about expressing intolerance for hate and vilification. My friend still seems upset with me, and they're the kinda person to speak ill of someone in secrecy so I hope that won't happen. All I could do was offer them to talk to me about it. But I feel a little better with support and when I'm being heard and listened to, I'm grateful for that, thank you again.